Heres what you can do

I haven’t been the best emotional state the past two weeks. And I am constantly getting asked “What can I do?”. At first I didn’t know. The more I’ve thought about it I’ve came up with a few ideas.

  1. Let me grieve.
  2. If I still want to love him, let me.
  3. Stop judging me. Ex.  It happened a long time ago, she should be over it.
  4. DON’T tell people I’m doing good, when you haven’t even asked me.
  5. It’s not your story to tell. So don’t tell people about my battle. (I don’t tell people about yours, do  I?)
  6. Understand this is hard.
  7. Don’t push me to talk about it. Further more don’t push me to get a job, or do better in school, workout more, call me lazy etc. My mental health is my ONLY job right now.

Now I know that most of my posts have tried to be uplifting, and for others to know they are not alone. But I struggle too; thats real life.

So let me leave you with this:

“The most important lesson that I have learned is to trust God in every circumstance. Lots of times we go through different trials and following God’s plan seems like it doesn’t make any sense at all. God is always in control and he will never leave us”  – Allyson Felix


Art that went to my heart

I wish I knew what to write this month. I don’t seem to have words. A lot has happened. (All of which have been good things!) I’ve been busy. My mind is busy. I wish I could say that this blog post is going to be the best I can write, but it’s not.

A couple weeks ago my art professor was discussing a piece and she said she thought the artist meant to say ‘Don’t the accident define you; define the accident.” By the way  the colors and subject matter were depicted.  I really liked how she worded it. A lot.

I’m trying to define the accident. At first I let the accident define me. For two years I set and wallowed and hurt and cried all because of my abuse. Now I realize that abuse effects everyone different. I used mine as a way to stay away from the world; only to find that I was just hurting myself even more. There are bad days. It’s not fun. I have scars. I go to a shrink every week. And that’s finally ok with me. I’m not crazy. Just yesterday was the one year anniversary of being in court for sentencing. That was a hard day. It was draining. It hurt. I didn’t know what to say and if I would speak at all. I got to look at him. I got to look into his eyes. They were cold, yet they said so much. I don’t know if I’ll ever see him again. I want to. I need to talk to him. I’ve said that from the beginning of this mess. It’s a way for me to finally put the past to bed. I remember every detail of it all. Time changes everything, but it hasn’t changed what I remember.

If you would have told me that all this was going to go down this way I’m not sure what I would have said. I don’t regret loving him. I should but I don’t. I am grateful for being able to become stronger from this. One year ago I sat in court with my future in a judges hands I didn’t know. The next few weeks after court I was so so confused. Time changes everything.

Yesterday I judged a horse show with one of my best friends. I laughed and had a good time. We joked around and got to do wha we loved. Horses have always had a positive effect on me. They just get it. Even if they’re not mine just being around them is healing. We got lunch and made patterns for the kids to ride. We were busy. It was fun. A year can change everything. Time changes everything. I really didn’t think about the one year anniverisy. Now, I haven’t gotten much sleep for the past week because I knew it was coming up, but yesterday I didn’t think too much about it. I am defining the accident. Not the other way around.

I am beginning to realize that these moments are going to come to us all in our lives.  They will hurt and rock your world. I’m sorry but they are. I don’t like to sugar coat things. It will suck. But I have learned the best thing you can possibly do is to keep going and not let it define you. I have spent so much of my life in the past and letting ONE bad thing get me. ( Now it was really one thing it went on for years and years, but you get the idea, right?)  Don’t let the bad things define you. I think the bad things are not really bad things at all. They all have a purpose. We all have to trust His will and not ours. Silver Linings.


1 Peter 2:24

Who his own self bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we, having died to sins, might live to righteousness; by whose stripes you were healed.





My mom got a new car(shocker) and it’s got a moon roof. I’m sitting in the car now with the moon roof open in a parking lot. The wind is blowing pretty fierce today. It’s also really sunny out. The wind is just blowing hard enough to make my hair blow back in the wind. But the rest of the car is closed. The only thing open is the moon roof. There are no other openings. It’s solid. For some strange reason it makes me feel safe. I’m safe from the harsh winds so they won’t blow me over; yet they are blowing just hard enough for me to feel the wind in my hair and on my skin. 
I’m loving the way it feels. Safe. I haven’t felt safe in a long long time. I’m always on guard. But in this moment I feel good. I’m soaking up every second of it just like the sunshine on my skin. 
The moon roof and wind is sorta like a parallel to God in a way. Bad stuff  is gonna happen and we can’t control it. But just like the moon roof providing a outlet to the elements, God is going to let bad things happen to you. BUT think about the rest of the car. It’s closed off to the wind and the elements of the outside world. Your situation could be way worse than what it is; I think a lot of us forget that while going thru tuff times. 
 He gives you just enough wind to keep you grounded. You make think that the wind blowing thru the moonroof is just all you can take. But the rest of your body is safe. He keeps us safe. He will only give you what you can handle.  
Psalm 91:4 You will be covered by his feathers; under his wings you will be safe: his good faith will be your salvation


Now this scripture really didn’t mean anything to me for a while. But something kept bringing me back to it. The more I read it over and over again, the more questions I had. I didn’t understand it. However, the more I struggled with my identity, the more I began to understand.

This one has been on my heart for a while now. I didn’t have the right words on how to write it, but I will do my best.

I’d like to take just a second to give you all a backstory onto why I’m writing this.

I struggle with my identity. I’m not going to lie about that. I don’t know who I am. I have questions about my future (and a whole lot more about my past). I wonder if I do the right thing. If I make the best choices, or what would happen if I made a wrong one. I worry about affecting others with what choices I make.  I wonder if I’m a good person. If God really has me in palm of his hand.

Have you ever felt like God forgot about you? Cause I have. A lot. I mean he made everyone in world right? Who would blame him he skipped over you for a couple days? I mean he does have A LOT to take care of up there.

I absolutely LOVE Pastor John Gray. He’s a big black man that’s a hilarious, but he also has a heart for God. The way he teaches and preaches is like nothing I’ve ever heard before. I don’t have the words for what he has taught me or how much praise I could ever give him. I highly doubt he will ever read this but I want to thank him. He has brought me to God, and for that I am forever grateful. He’s changed my life.

“I will open rivers on the bare heights And springs in the midst of the valleys; I will make the wilderness a pool of water And the dry land fountains of water.“I will put the cedar in the wilderness, The acacia and the myrtle and the olive tree; I will place the juniper in the desert Together with the box tree and the cypress, That they may see and recognize, And consider and gain insight as well, That the hand of the LORD has done this, And the Holy One of Israel has created it.”

Isaiah 41:18-20

To me this verse means that God is coming. He hasn’t forgot about you. “I will open rivers on the bare of heights and springs in the midst or the valleys”

I am in a valley. I’m in a dry spot. It’s not necessarily dark anymore but its very bitter and harsh. I picture a cold winter day with no leaves on the trees, frozen water, harsh winds, and no life at all. But I believe that he will “open the rivers”. I have to believe that. I have no other hope to hold onto but that. I’m not going to be like this forever. Sure, I’m going to have scars and that’s ok. I’m not embarrassed by that. But these dry spots won’t last. They can’t. I remember how dark of a place I was in. It’s not dark anymore. So that’s my proof. I know he’s coming to me. He’s coming to open rivers. And the longer that have to wait, the more work he’s doing in me. The longer I wait the more developed I become. The more my roots get into the ground. The more patient I become. But most importantly the more like the ‘me’ that God has created me to be, I become.

I’m trying. I’m searching. And I will find myself and my silver lining.

Silver Linings.

Clean Slates

Thank goodness for an extra day so I can keep my New Years resolution by writing every month! February has been full of ups and downs. I don’t think I’ve ever experienced a month like this one.

If I’ve learned anything this past month it’s to always always be there. Now I know this sounds weird but it’s true. You have to be there. And what I mean by that is you can’t half ass be there. You have be in all or nothing.  I’ve also realized that you have to be in the moment. You can’t be worrying about what tomorrow will hold. You have be in the now.

Two years ago yesterday my world turned upside down. I don’t really have any great advice or wisdom to give on the anniversary of it and I wish I did. The only thing I really know for sure is it was Gods plan for me. For us. For our families. For our futures. For everything. And that’s a really hard concept to grasp. I know it’s so very true but it’s just so hard to remind yourself of everyday when your constantly thinking about it. Because of it I know I’m a better person. I know that I’m a lot stronger than I thought I was.

I think if he was here and we were together he would tell me to follow my heart. And so to honor him.. But mainly myself I did something on Sunday. I bought a horse. Now I know that doesn’t sound like a big deal but it kinda is.

This horse is a clean slate. He’s not broke yet so that means I get start him! Which is really exciting!

And I really need a clean slate..really really need one. I try to remind myself that each year when the anniversary comes around.

I’m trying. I’m searching. And I will find myself and my silver lining.

“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life? “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these.If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith?”

Matthew 6: 25-30

Thankful for the nose in my armpit

One of my new years resolutions was to write at least one blog post a month. The goal being that at the end of the year I can look back and see how/what I was doing. Its been hard lately to write, mainly because I have been avoiding my feelings towards everything lately, and because as I lie on my bed trying to type my dog is currently cuddled up under my arm making it hard to type.

So with Mesas nose in my armpit, I am thankful. I am thankful for my sweet girl, that no matter how many times she runs off I love her just the same. I am thankful for a good warm house, food and clothing with all the snow we have (16in).  I am thankful for my family and friends. I am also thankful for being able to get an education. While this is going to be a challenging semester( And I still have no idea what I want to do.… Stuck between nursing and teaching… I see promise and purpose in both.) I am grateful for the opportunity to go to college. And as always, I’m thankful for my ponies.

A few of my friends took a mission trip at the beginning of this month. Seeing what they have posted about their encounters while on their trip made me realize just how   lucky we are. And while I am thankful for ‘small things’ and am also grateful for the person that God is making me to be. A year ago I couldn’t say that. I am grateful for my struggle. I am grateful for the absolute worst thing to ever happen to me. Without it I wouldn’t be on this journey, I probably wouldn’t even have a blog right now. I wouldn’t be able to see where I need to grow. I wouldn’t know my weaknesses and my strengths.

I am trying to find silver linings. I may not see ‘big’ reasons why this happened to me. I haven’t found the thing that is screaming out “This is it! This is your silver lining!”, but this whole thing has made me grateful. It’s the little things. The ‘silver developments’.

Colossians 3:15

And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful.


I believe

I haven’t written in quite a while.. Hopefully I can write some over break as soon as exams are done, with that being said I have decided to post this, a scholarship essay I wrote. This is different than what my blog was originally made to be about but I thought this would be a breathe of fresh air so to speak. If you read this and are in FFA feel free to use this a helpful reference but PLEASE DO NOT take this. This work is mine and I am proud of it.


“I believe in the future of agriculture with a faith born not of words but of deeds”… These words from the FFA Creed written in 1930 by E.M. Tiffany surely ring true for Pulaski County, and myself. As I attend New River in the fall I know that I am that much closer to obtaining my goal as becoming an Agriculture Educator. With the recent news of my win for the Virginia State FFA Association Agriculture Education Proficiency Award, I believe that my career choice will empower other young agriculturists to become more involved in the field, just as my agriculture teachers have done for myself. With becoming an agriculture educator I hope to provide a strong foundation for Virginias’ youth and develop their potential for premier leadership, personal growth, and career success, just as the FFA mission statement states.
As Pulaski County continues to grow and develop in agriculture technologies I see nothing but great things to come for the agriculture community. With the development of such strong leaders the FFA and Livestock Club have in their programs proves this to be true. With Pulaski County having such a strong recent growth in dairy technologies and milking parlors I know Pulaski County is going to continue to grow and employ people within these fields. With developments in precision agriculture I believe Virginia will continue to grow and develop products made with “precision” for the betterment of the consumer. As Virginias’ horse industry continues to grow and bring in over 1.2 billion dollars to the Virginia economy annually, Virginia is the opportune place for an equine enthusiast. Along with the equine industry, broilers, cattle, dairy products, horticulture, and turkeys along with other commodities the agriculture industry brings in over fifty-five billon dollars annually to Virginia, and this will only continue to grow in future years.
As seen at the 87th Annual National FFA Convention this past October held in Louisville, KY, FFA membership is at an all time high. This proves that America has a young generation of agriculture enthusiasts ready to make a difference. Agriculture is the backbone of America. Without agriculture, the American people would go hungry, naked, and not have a home, thankfully FFA members see this need and will continue to show and share their passion with other FFA members. I believe agriculture jobs will continue to grow due to the American population continuing to grow. I believe that FFA and 4H members hold the keys to new developments in agriculture and will have a strong base of leadership, communication, and teamwork skills ready to lead American agriculture into the future, which is ever so bright.